All natural parents would want their offsprings to do well in life. More so all natural grannies and great grand parents would like to see that their children’s generations and children’s children’s generation are doing even better.
The heart is the core of our life, This is the seat of our values and character. There is no right way or ideal or perfect way in life or in evaluating moral values. But shaping a good and Godly person for Christ requires not only educating the mind and ignores the heart. The heart stores and holds love, compassion, grace, values, manners, worship, live plans, rhythm of life, dreams, hopes, dreams and aspirations.
Educating the mind but not the heart only creates a greater menace to society
Fathers do not just love their children once in a while. It is endless love because the love of God for His creations comes through every father. The natural urge to have His own children, to care for them and love them within His lifetime is God like as shown in 1 John: 4. 16. And we know and have believed the love which God hath in us. God is love; and he that abideth in love abideth in God, and God abideth in him.
According to the Word of God, a father’s love is endless and kind from His heart. The purest love is silent and does not grows envy of others or brags of His love, He does His love with actions instead of words. The true love is always decent and behave respectfully of his children. The love of Jesus in every father is always truthful and righteous and he acts as the role model to his children and family and is beautifully depicted in 1 Corinthians: 13. 4. Love suffereth long, [and] is kind; love envieth not; love vaunteth not itself, is not puffed up, 5. doth not behave itself unseemly, seeketh not its own, is not provoked, taketh not account of evil; 6. rejoiceth not in unrighteousness, but rejoiceth with the truth; 7. beareth all things, believeth all things, hopeth all things, endureth all things.
Fathers traditionally have a special position in the family because the are financial providers and bread winners, whom brings home bread, buns, cakes, pasta, potatoes, rice, noodles, udon, roti praata, etc. Besides, being a son he takes care of his parents and in laws, being a husband he loves and provides for his wife and being a father he cares, guides, molds and plays with his children and disciplines and is stern with his children when they are wrong or disrespectful.
According to the Bible a child without a father is liked an orphan, because with a father, the child will be emotionally loved and supported into adulthood to become able young men and women of God. Of course there are exceptional cases where a single mother is able to play the role of a father and mother well. In most cases, a mother would not want to take up the role of a father because it is hard and painful lifelong job and a heavy burden on top of being a mother.
Fathers have the calling of God to be the head of the family and his tribe. The role of a father bestowed by God cannot be easily replaced by others. Although the yoke that he carries is heavy, but fathers take heart that God’s burden is light. As fathers are the anchor of his family and a Godly father has great influence over his child’s development and in molding a Godly character and warriors for Christ Jesus. In contrary an ungodly father might not encourage or discourage their children from participating in church service and activities.
On the other side, sons looks to their father as role model on how to be a man. When small they observe their dad does things and picks up his habits, values and attitudes and they learn how to love, care, protect, respectful, responsible. Thus the saying like father, like son, if the son grows up with his dad and is close to him. Apart from mother-daughter bond, nowadays, there is a saying like father like daughter, especially she is a daddy’s girl. Because daughters not only look to their dads for love, respect and mind treatment from a man. Moreover, she will soak up his attitude, perceptions, behavior and beliefs and a daughter will also like to role model after a successful dad in today’s business world. More so a father’s ever lasting love from young helps to establish and affirms her identity as a beloved. A father’s love is a reflection of God’s love for us. And fathers also show his children the way at home like God has shown us the way in our lives.
What does the Bible say about mothers. A lady carries the biblical title of mother after she is married and bears a child. Then she gains different level of authority in her family, society and her relationship with God and is record in the beginning of mankind in Genesis: 3. 20. The man called his wife Eve, because she was the mother of all living.
Genesis: 17. 16. I will bless her, and moreover I will give you a son by her. Yes, I will bless her, and she will be a mother of nations. Kings of peoples will come from her.”
A woman changes to a mother after she bears a child and giving birth, which is a Godly process. A mother is a transformed being not just physically, but she develops the instinct to love, care, protect and provide for her child according to Ezekiel: 19. 2. and say, What was your mother? A lioness: she couched among lions, in the midst of the young lions she nourished her cubs. A woman is generally less generous than man in matters such finance, sharing and communal relationships. But a mother becomes a new selfless being for her family and child and she continue to churns out love for them throughout her lifetime, virtually a love factory.
A mother’s greatest strength is her endless love and pain and hardship endurance. Many man would have fainted out during the labor process of many hours of extreme pain, stress and exhaustion. Is like being shot in the pelvic and forced to crawl for hours. Simply it’s a mom’s mental preparation and unresolved determination to wanting to give birth to her own child that makes her not throw in the towel easily.
Children love and cherish your mother, for she is not heavy with burden but packed with love. A mother can carry more burden than what we imagine. She carries all the burden of her family in her body, heart and mind, never complains and continues to push on. Edwin Hubble Chapin once said ‘no language can express the power, and beauty, and heroism of a mother’s love. It shrinks not where man cowers, and grows stronger where man faints, and over waste of wordly fortunes sends the radiance of its quenchless fidelity like a star’.
Below are some essential parenting tips for fathers and mothers. Learn to feed your kid with healthy food and not with junk food or instant food just for the sake of convenience and time. Ensure that your child have moderation in their diet and avoid gimmicks and over selling products that promises increased intelligence and brain development and fast body growth of your child.
Parenting is always built on the foundation of consistency and repetition, because your child will appreciate your presence and accompaniment over long periods of time rather than intermittent visit. They will feel empty and lonely when you are not around. On the other hand, intermittent visits at the wrong time might spark embarrassment and resentment of your child. Take your kids out and play with them, and spent time and built bonds with them. Perhaps even involving your kids and teenagers to do house course together and fixing broken household stuff together and crubbing your cars together. This create a sense of worthiness and contribution to the family, when they board your squeaky clean car or play around in their tidy and comfortable home.
As parents you need to train your child with sharp minds using sharp minds development techniques I.e. keen and detail observation, problem analysis and solving, creative ideation, etc. A simple way is to speak to your baby with human language from start i.e. by teaching to say I love papa, mama, God. Train Your Kids to be a contributor to the society instead of a consumer of other people’s products and inventions, for the progress of human civilization is based on inventions and scientific discoveries of God’s wonders. Being able to add value to society will in future enable your children to stand on their own feet independently and earn themselves a living, when parents are no longer around to support them.
When they are at the age of understanding and forming self image, as parents help them discover who they are in Christ, for God is the ultimate creator of your children and He has made plans for them when they are being conceived. As depicted in Jeremiah 1. 5. Before I formed thee in the belly I knew thee, and before thou camest forth out of the womb I sanctified thee; I have appointed thee a prophet unto the nations.