Today’s dating and falling in love is filled with alot of pit falls, especially with the introduction of online socializing media i.e. Facebook.com, MySpace.com, Hangouts.com, Instagram.com, Twitter.com, 163.com and specialized dating sites i.e. Plenty OfFish.com, Dating.com as well as the cutting edge virtual reality socializing site. Because it might be contaminated with lust, sexual desires, adultery traps, liar, con jobs, fake, unreal relationships not based on true love. Although these sites can be thanked for helping social introverts relate and interact with others in their preferred manner. Nonetheless, we can see on news of people being cheated of their money and possessions running into hundreds of thousands all over the world by those irresponsible and greedy.
In today’s society there are only few marital status i.e. being single, married, divorced, diseased partner, remarried, forced marriageable, being single, keeping celibacy, etc. In ancient as well as modern society, man and woman tie the wed knot simply because of true love and they wish to leave their parents, cleve together and start their own family. The wed lock is the end result of God’s blue print of the beginning of Eden that opposite attracts and the Genesis master plan is also grouped into pairs. How awesome is this master creation that no scientific studies can explain this human chemistry and basic instinct.
Although the Holy Bible mentions about husbands first instead of wives might seem chauvinistic and stating that husband is the head of the wife is unequal and sexist. And sometimes used by men to dominate and control over their spouses. It is just a reflection of the advanced Roman and Greek societies at that time. Nonetheless, culture and customs of various ethnic and societies may vary to certain degree.
The condition for husbands to be head of the household is 2 folds I.e. to love their wives and to constantly revised and meditate on the Word of God, because the Word of God is spirit and life that lights our path and steadies our steps. Both parties need to be moved by the Word of God, in order for God to work in family.
Ephesians: 5. 23. For the husband is the head of the wife, and Christ also is the head of the church, [being] himself the saviour of the body. 24. But as the church is subject to Christ, so [let] the wives also [be] to their husbands in everything. 25. Husbands, love your wives, even as Christ also loved the church, and gave himself up for it; 26. that he might sanctify it, having cleansed it by the washing of water with the word, 27. that he might present the church to himself a glorious [church], not having spot or wrinkle or any such thing; but that it should be holy and without blemish. 28. Even so ought husbands also to love their own wives as their own bodies. He that loveth his own wife loveth himself: 29. for no man ever hated his own flesh; but nourisheth and cherisheth it, even as Christ also the church; 30. because we are members of his body. The Holy Bible suggests that husbands to sanctify their minds with the Word of God, because the Instructions of God brings life and halts the advancement of darkness. It is the element that existed even before light in the creation of the world. It is the life source that creates all that crawls, creep, swim, fly and walk. A truly remarkable perfect creation within 7 days.
Difference between married and single is that married wife is to please her husband and like wise a husband to love his wife. Whereas a single is to please God and not men. Celebasy is a God’s gift and a blessings because you can keep God’s commandments better than married couples can. Our relationship with God is one to one. In principal the human relationship governing God’s precious creations is enshrined in Numbers: 30. 16. These are the statutes, which Jehovah commanded Moses, between a man and his wife, between a father and his daughter, being in her youth, in her father’s house.
If you are still unmarried now is to choose to being single and not getting married for there are many advantages of being single. Nonetheless, if you decided to change your status is still not too late. However, the opposite direction after marriage to being single again is not encouraged I.e. fall out of love, divorce and remarry, because when a couple takes wives before God is a commitment that both sides need to keep a life time. Marriage in the Holy matrimony of the Father and Lord’s Son, is serious business and is a commitment of a lifetime until death separates. Being focused on God and ask God for favors and opportunities to fall in love. Because when we continue to praise God, God will take heed of our needs. Abraham help his servant find a mate. However, we need to have the peace in the presence of God and wait upon the Lord. Second is to grow and mature in the Holy Spirit, as this will attract good partners to come forward and as a result God has arranged us a loving partner.
Third, is to follow and not to disobey God’s commandments in the Holy Bible I.e. be pure and respectful in loving relationships and do not commit adultery and pre marital sex. Because God hates sins and cheating and the inner instinct and lust to commit them.
In essence is to find a God loving person. When marrying a person from a different beliefs can be difficult and dangerous, because there might be possibilities of your partner pulling you away from your true God to their’s. Like in the Biblical history, of King Ahaz who married the Phoenician Queen Jezebel. After their marriage, they started worshiping Baal (ancient god often depicted as a bull), instead of Jehovah the Father God. While King Ahaz was blinded and did many horrible deeds and Queen Jezebel was instrumental in the betrayal, falsification, torture and murder of many fellow loyal Jews.
For those in a relationship must take patience to build a marriage and to resolve any objections and conflicts. Wife needs to put your husband first and give him face. At the other end husbands must love and sacrifice for his wife. Foremost, both sides should learn to forgive, if they desire to continue their relationship under 1 household. Life of marriage can full of romance, excitement, intimacy and hopes at the same time woven with disappointments, sufferings, sorrows and grief. It is a learning process that all couples have to go through.